It's OK to feel hopeless.  Everyone feels that way when they realize that a
particular situation in their life is probably never going to work out the way
they hoped it would.  Feeling hopeless from time to time is part of being
human.  Most people in your type of situation tend to feel hopeless too so
you're certainly not alone.  Even though you're feeling hopeless, I want you
to keep chatting with me until you feel better.  What have you got to lose?

Hopelessness is a natural instinct that helps us detach when a physical
source of sustenance has dried up.  In the wild, hopelessness allows us to
give up our attachment to something (like the local watering hole for
example) when it's necessary for our survival that we detach and move on to
a new source of life giving nourishment.  But in the modern world,
hopelessness is usually temporary because there are so many sources of
love and sustenance that we tend to "snap out of it" within a reasonable
amount of time.  People who feel hopeless show that they are wise when
they contact a loved one and share mutual love and support so they can get
on with their lives.  But many people are "stuck" and feel hopeless much of
the time.  People who feel depressed or anxious much of the time show that
they are wise when they seek professional help.  In the modern world, being
stuck in hopelessness often means that people have confused the lose of a
loved one or the temporary loss of happiness with the loss of love and
happiness themselves!  This confusion can only be "cured" by frequent and
liberal applications of unconditional love.

In order to snap out of hopelessness, eventually you will want to have the
courage to get up and move on with your life.  Courage is the ability to do
the "right" thing even when you feel hopeless or afraid.  So I encourage you
to explore the idea of tapping into your inner source of courage.  But if
you're not ready for that, are you at least ready to begin grieving the loss of
whatever it is that has made you feel hopeless?

But as always, the choice about where you go from here is up to you.  
So what would you like to chat about now?
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