It's OK to feel guilty.  Everyone feels guilty when they believe that they may
be to "blame" for hurting someone or some living thing.  Feeling guilty from
time to time is part of being human.  Most people in your type of situation
tend to feel guilty too so you're certainly not alone.  Even though you're
feeling guilty, I want you to keep chatting with me until you feel better.  What
have you got to lose?

Guilt is a natural instinct.  In the wild, shame is the recognition that the
patterns of your life are causing a source of your life to dry up (or become
so polluted that it can't support your life).  For example, if you began to
realize that your habit of defecating in the watering hole that you rely on for
fresh water was making the water unfit to support your life (and the lives of
others like you), you would feel ashamed of yourself.  Guilt then gives you
the ability to change the patterns of your life (your habits) so they don't
result in the loss of your source of sustenance.  Guilt is essentially a
negative motivator.  It guides you to stop doing things that will result in harm
to yourself and/or others.  It can also motivate you to attempt to "clean up"
the situation you have created.  In the modern world, being guilty is
essentially the same thing but on a more complex level.  Someone who is
guilty of something has essentially behaved in a way that harms life.  Your
guilty feelings should lift when your habits have changed appropriately and
you've done your best to clean up the situations you've created.  People who
feel guilty show that they are wise when they contact a loved one and share
mutual love and support so they can change their habits, do their best to
clean up the situation, and get on with their lives.  But many people are
"stuck" and feel guilty much of the time.  People who feel  guilty, depressed,
or anxious much of the time show that they are wise when they seek
professional help.  Being stuck in guilt often means that people are unable to
let go of the past and realize that they really have changed and no longer
need to feel guilty.  

In order to make truly positive changes in yourself, it's better to be
motivated by love rather than guilt.  I want to encourage you to explore the
idea of embracing love as your motivating force rather than guilt.  You'll be
glad you did!

But as always, the choice about where you go from here is up to you.  
So what would you like to chat about now?
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