It's OK to be depressed.  Many people have bouts of depression from time
to time; it's part of being human.  Most people in your type of situation tend
to become depressed too so you're certainly not alone.  Even though you're
depressed, I want you to keep chatting with me until you feel better.

Sadness is a natural instinct that keeps us close to the physical necessities
of life.  In the wild, the loss of an important source of sustenance in your life
can lead to death.  Being close to familiar sources of sustenance and
support tend to make living creatures "happier", and going further from those
sources of life and love tend to make living creatures "sadder".  In the
modern world, sadness can be processed over time and eventually the cloud
of sadness lifts.  In general, people go through a natural grieving process
where they eventually mourn the loss and get on with their lives.  People
who are sad show that they are wise when they contact loved ones and
share unconditional love and support.  But many people are "stuck" in the
grieving process.  People who feel depressed or anxious much of the time
show that they are wise when they seek professional help.  In the modern
world, being stuck in grief often means that people have confused the lose
of a loved one or the temporary loss of happiness with the loss of love and
happiness themselves!  This confusion can only be "cured" by a fresh
injection of unconditional love.

Science is still trying to understand what causes depression.  Certainly there
are changes in the brain that correlate to the onset of depression.  But what
causes those changes?  In nearly all cases where people are depressed,
there is a severe and/or chronic lack of unconditional love and/or healthy
boundaries in their lives.  Although various prescription drugs can temporarily
reduce the symptoms of depression, the only thing that can "cure"
depression in the long run are liberal doses of unconditional love for the rest
of the person's life.  We all know that unconditional love is healing.  But
many of us don't know what it is.  I encourage you to explore the concept of
unconditional love with healthy boundaries for yourself.

In order to process your sadness, eventually you will want to have the
courage to move on with your life.  Courage is the ability to do the "right"
thing even when you are sad.  So I encourage you to explore the idea of
becoming more courageous.  But if you're not ready for that, are you at
least ready to consider being afraid of what will happen if you never stop
being sad?

But as always, the choice about where you go from here is up to you.  
So what would you like to chat about now?
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